I need Help!

[norid]

okay....so i asked this girl who i have a "crush" on to the movies and she said yes! but her dad doesnt trust guys so he is sending her little bro along which is a friend of mine so kinda of akward. so how would i gain the fathers trust? oh and does it mean anything if a girl blushes when you talk to them?:confused1:

[Jokersvirus]

To gain a father's trust is simple, treat the girl right and he wont sit down with you and have the 12 gauge talk.

If you are talking to them just normal conversation and they do that its a sign they like you.

[BocReaper]

Well generally just listen to what the guy says, he wants her back at a time? Have her back home a minute early. All around don't seem like you're vying for his trust, just take note and do what he says. As for the rest, find someone who has longer conversations than "Hello" "I need to go" with women.

[Jokersvirus]

Oh ya another thing...

DO NOT LOOK AT HIS DAUGHTER LIKE SHE IS A PIECE OF MEAT. he will smack you down fast.

[BocReaper]

Oh ya another thing...

DO NOT LOOK AT HIS DAUGHTER LIKE SHE IS A PIECE OF MEAT. he will smack you down fast.

Provided he isn't the "I have a 12 gauge and a shovel" type. Then we won't hear from you again if you do that.

[norid]

I guess it's a good thing the mom likes me and said yes when she asked. oh and the dad is rough neck mexican so he has the 12 gauge locked and loaded.

[BocReaper]

I guess it's a good thing the mom likes me and said yes when she asked

I personally wouldn't trust mothers, but that's from experience. Not sure how it works on a wide scale. The other forum goers can help on this bit.

[Jokersvirus]

I agree with Boc, they are worse when it comes to daughers for the fact they've been in the same situation.

Best overall advice is this:
Mind your manners
say yes sir, no sir. Unless the father states otherwise.
Be respectful to the girl, no brainer there
Do everything the father says to the letter and a little bit better.
Make eye contact with the father.

[BocReaper]

Especially do that eye contact one. Shifty eyes are signs of fear and deceit usually. Father's hate those two things when it involves their daughter. You gotta make and hold that eye contact. Never flinch or look away.

[norid]

Great now i'm real nervous

[Jokersvirus]

Dude, its ok to be nervous. If you want to take this friendship of yours with her to the next level just be a true man and dont screw up.

[BocReaper]

It's nervous or unprepared. At least you know what you need to do. Just go in, act natural, don't put on a show and you'll do fine.

[norid]

okay thank you :)......i tell ya how it goes tonight if ya want

[thedeparted]

the bro is a spy so keep it G, the father knows it's BS but you don't want him to hunt you down.

[norid]

i kinda figuered but the bro is a good friend...but then again...idk

[Subb]

Also, when he shakes ur hand dont give him a hand shake of wimp. Just be honest with him its hard for a father to be excepting of the guy whos raddling the cage of his daughter. But mothers can be very two faced so just watch out.

[BocReaper]

Well the father could be paying him and money is a good tool. Or he could use the leverage as the father to make him do what he needs. Like Departed said, G. People will blow things up when they think they'll get a good reward out of it. And you can never be sure until after everything passes.

[norid]

i guess i'll just have to see how it plays out

[Subb]

Just be honest and confident Bring her home early is a most. You gotta prove to him ur responcible and trustworthy. I dated this italian chick for many years and her father was an old school Italian and it took forever to get him to like me. I remember when he invited to to go on a fishing trip with him on his 47 foot siliverton boat and tbh, i didnt think i was coming home at the end of that trip. The ocean is big and easy to disappear in

[thedeparted]

lmao dexter style haha

[norid]

haha around where i live we just have fields so i think i could be found quickly

[BocReaper]

That happened to a person I know. He was dating this girl and the dad said if he hurt her they'd never find him. He then asked him to go on a hunting trip which he did. Pro Tip: That is not a good idea. Luckily he is still kicking. Just make sure it doesn't happen to you Norid.

[norid]

i'll travel with a bullet proof vest...

[Jokersvirus]

i'll travel with a bullet proof vest...

bullet resistant vest better be able to handle a 357 just to be safe.

[Subb]

By a pistol man, buy a pistol. I went on the fishing trip and returned safely. The a few weeks later he took us all to marthas vineyard. Torwards the end i still dont think he really cared for me bout we were on good terms? I think he wanted me to Marry her tbh

[Ilyich Valken]

Just be honest and confident Bring her home early is a most. You gotta prove to him ur responcible and trustworthy. I dated this italian chick for many years and her father was an old school Italian and it took forever to get him to like me. I remember when he invited to to go on a fishing trip with him on his 47 foot siliverton boat and tbh, i didnt think i was coming home at the end of that trip. The ocean is big and easy to disappear in Now that would be some scary stuff. Haha

[norid]

*sigh* she couldn't go her brother had to work...:(

[Jokersvirus]

That sucks mans, maybe sometime this weekend?

[norid]

idk....she said she would call me if she can.

[Subb]

Norid how old are u and this girl?

[norid]

17 and 15....i ummmm went to an all boys school untill i was ummmmm 15 so i'm knida new to this

[Subb]

17 and 15....i ummmm went to an all boys school untill i was ummmmm 15 so i'm knida new to this

so shes 15 and how old is her younger brother?

[norid]

he's 13 i believe and he's going to be a freshman....i just found out though it's not the dad i need to fear but the older brother

[Subb]

ahhh the older brother, i was nervous of my ex's older brother cause he was in prison for 6 years on gun charges. thank god i was gone b4 he got out lol

[norid]

that would have been ugly. but she told anywhere she goes her bro has to go.

[Subb]

that kinda sucks. protective parents. are u allowed to chill with her at her house

[norid]

no...idk now she's going all defensive asking if i asked her because i thiugh she was easy

[BocReaper]

Well that's no good. Uh all you can say is no and hope she believes you?

[norid]

i did i said "i asked you bescause we get along and your pretty, and hopefully youd say yes"

[Jokersvirus]

no...idk now she's going all defensive asking if i asked her because i thiugh she was easy


Shes doing that because she is very insecure with herself. She doesnt believe she could find a good person to be with because she sees herself lower than all the other girls.


This is where you prove yourself to her and start moving over to the possible more then friend ladder.

[norid]

we just decided to be friends :(

[thedeparted]

haha friendzoned...good luck ever getting out of that. you ever wanted something with her be it relationship or sex forget about it....

[BocReaper]

This is true. Once you hit the friend zone you are screwed.

[Subb]

theres not hope now, so break out the tub of vaseline

[Jokersvirus]

Sorry to hear that man. You are now her gay best friend. MEANING everytime a guy hurts her she will be running to you to talk about it. Littl advice/ pro-tip, dont put up with it!

[Subb]

joker i hate when they do that

[Jokersvirus]

It happens to often, tooooo offffttteeeeenn.

[norid]

Okay this is BS now she says she wants to let time roll and see where we end up....i asked her what that means she said start out as friends with benefits.

[RaiDae]

....that girl is mental. Does that mean that she just wants your body... or that she wants to date you but wants to be able to pull with other guys aswell... that.... I don't understand women!!!! And I am a woman.
But... wouldn't the proposed situation make it more likely for her dad/brother to try kill you?...

Do you want to be "beneficial friends" or do you actually want to date her?

[norid]

this is what she said....
her "i think we should let time roll"
Me " okay whats that mean?"
her "we hang out and be friends with benefits. I guess" ....a few minutes of me thinking what the HELL?????
Her " I got to go bye...oh you do know this like we are going out cept know oone asking eachother...." then she left

[Muffincat]

This is probably a recipe for you ending up getting hurt.

[norid]

Ya...when she said that that kinda put me off.....now she wont stop calling me....god shoot me

[RaiDae]

So you'll be going out with each other... but not actually going out with each other... If that's the case, why don't you actually just go out with each other? I mean... is there a reason she doesn't want to make it official?

[thedeparted]

Okay this is BS now she says she wants to let time roll and see where we end up....i asked her what that means she said start out as friends with benefits.

well at least it looks like your going break a couple pieces off.

[Muffincat]

Yeah... sounds to me like she wants you, at least on some level, but for some reason... doesn't want other people to know, or something like that. WARNING BELLS

[norid]

I'm starting to think she has issues....like calling every 5 min.